Reframing Self-Care: It’s Not Just About Bubble Baths

Self-care has become a bit of a buzzword lately, hasn’t it? Everywhere you turn, there’s some influencer showing off their luxurious bubble bath or posting a perfectly curated self-care routine. And while that can be lovely, it’s also only a small piece of the self-care puzzle. The truth is, self-care is so much more than a bubble bath or a spa day—it’s about creating space for your body and mind to feel seen, heard, and cared for, especially when life feels like a whirlwind.

If you're living with chronic illness, disability, or just the everyday stresses of life, you might have found that the typical “self-care” advice doesn’t always feel like it fits. So let’s talk about the deeper, sometimes less glamorous, side of self-care—the kind that really matters when you need it the most.

The Self-Care That Nobody Talks About

When we hear "self-care," we often imagine something that requires time, money, or energy we may not have. But self-care doesn’t always have to be about big gestures—it’s about consistency, finding balance, and doing what feels right for you. Here’s what it can look like:

1. Setting Boundaries
One of the hardest parts of self-care is learning to say no. Society tells us to be people-pleasers, to constantly do more and be more. But here's the thing: you don’t have to be available for everything and everyone. In fact, you shouldn’t be. Saying no to things that drain you, that don’t align with your values, or that you simply don’t have the energy for is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself. Whether it's declining an invitation, asking for time to recharge, or stepping back from a project, setting boundaries protects your energy and helps you stay grounded.

2. Listening to Your Body (Even When It’s Uncomfortable)
Our bodies are constantly talking to us. But how often do we ignore their cues? If you have a chronic illness or disability, you’re probably well-acquainted with how your body can send all kinds of signals that something’s off—fatigue, pain, stress—but it’s easy to push through it, right? Self-care isn’t just about relaxing; it’s about listening to what your body needs and responding. Maybe that means taking an extra rest day, eating food that fuels you, or asking for help when things get overwhelming. Whatever it is, it’s about honoring what your body is telling you, even if it's not the easiest thing to do.

3. Saying “No” to the Pressure of Perfection
We live in a world that constantly tells us we need to “do it all.” But here’s the secret: nobody’s got it all together, no matter what Instagram says. When it comes to self-care, it’s so important to release the idea that you need to have it perfectly planned out or executed. Instead of trying to follow a picture-perfect self-care routine, just focus on what makes you feel supported. If that’s watching your favorite show in sweatpants, then go for it. If it’s taking a walk to clear your head, awesome. There’s no “wrong” way to take care of yourself.

4. Giving Yourself Permission to Rest
Rest. It’s one of the most underrated forms of self-care, especially in a culture that rewards busyness. If you live with chronic illness or disability, rest might be an essential part of your daily routine, and it’s not always easy to give yourself permission to slow down. But here's the thing—rest is a form of healing. It's not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Whether that’s taking a nap, sitting in silence, or not answering emails for a while, allow yourself to rest without guilt. Your body needs it, and your mind does too.

5. Practicing Compassion Over Criticism
Let’s face it—most of us are harder on ourselves than anyone else could ever be. But self-care is all about changing that inner dialogue. When things don’t go as planned, when you miss a goal, or when you feel overwhelmed by life, be gentle with yourself. Talk to yourself the way you would a friend. Self-compassion isn’t about ignoring your flaws; it’s about accepting them and showing yourself kindness even when things aren’t perfect.

Why This Type of Self-Care Matters

The truth is, the fluffy, Instagrammable version of self-care is just one part of the equation. What really matters is how you show up for yourself on the tough days—the days when you don’t have the energy, when things aren’t going as planned, or when you feel disconnected from yourself. Self-care isn’t a one-size-fits-all prescription; it’s about finding what nurtures you in ways big and small.

When you focus on creating habits that are in alignment with your needs, boundaries, and well-being, you’ll begin to see a shift in how you approach the world around you. And let’s be honest—life can feel exhausting, especially when you’re navigating chronic illness, disability, or even just the everyday struggles that many of us face. But the real magic of self-care lies in its ability to keep you grounded, connected, and resilient—even on the hard days.

So next time someone tells you to take a bubble bath, remember: real self-care is what you need it to be. It’s about listening to yourself, honoring your body’s needs, and being kind to yourself in ways that count. Trust me, you’ve got this.

Disclaimer: The information provided on this blog is for informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is based on personal experiences, insights, and general research, but each individual’s situation is unique. Always seek the advice of a qualified mental health professional, healthcare provider, or other relevant professional with any questions you may have regarding your personal circumstances.